Let’s Throw Out the Rule Book!

Let’s Throw Out the Rule Book!

Feb 18 2013

So often in my life have I been scared and uncertain. I looked to other people to guide me. I was afraid of making a mistake. I was afraid of being judged. And guess what? What I have found is that trying too hard makes it incredibly difficult to be “noticed.” Do I really want to be known as a nice and compliant and OBEDIENT person?  Not really, no. In fact, doing so would be boring and NOT BECAUSE being nice is boring but only because being “nice” would lack flavor. Yes, I am loving. Yes, I am empathetic. Yes, I really REALLY care, but you know what else?  I am spicy! And sometimes, I am a little messy! I may color outside the lines and have awful handwriting. To anyone who has ever been witness to my “nice” handwriting,…

On Being and Bees

On Being and Bees

Feb 10 2013

  The verb “to be” in the English language tells us who we ARE, tells me who you ARE, and lets me express who I AM. The beauty of “to be” is that it creates the energetic qualities that we are working with in any given moment. The being-ness of life allows us to be who we ARE. We are not doing anything. We just  ARE. We are who we are in the given present moment.  This is why the expression “I am who I am,” a mantra I often use while meditating reminds me that each moment reflects to me the energetic qualities that I AM taking into the current situation. I am who I am. Is my world loving and peaceful? Is it chaotic and contentious? Do I experience myself as powerful or AM I a victim to…

Just Be Yourself…

Just Be Yourself…

Jan 16 2013

When we confide in a supportive friend or loved one about our anxiety concerning a situation—whether this is related to impending behavior on a romantic first date, a job interview, or happy hour with prospective friends,  we are often given the advice, “Just be yourself.”  This advice, rooted in wisdom, is usually much easier said than done. Often unbeknownst to us, many of us have lost track of who we are authentically. Usually, we the image that we “buy into” of who we are does not serve us. We may think we are one way because others have told us so. We may be often fully integrated in activities that we feel we are “good at” but where our passion truly does not lie. Sometimes we choose to believe that we need to be a certain way. To claim this…